The moment one definitely commits

June 8, 2012

Authenticity, Connection

A couple of my good friends have recently made bold, life-changing moves. They made big decisions on matters previously enshrouded by longstanding hesitance, uncertainty and fear. I applaud them for committing to new directions. Got me thinking about this quote:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.  -W. H. Murray

I think it’s true, and not for any mystical or magical reason. When you commit yourself to something, you think differently, you talk differently, you behave differently than before you truly committed.

When you are unsure of what you want, we are unsure of how to help you. When you are not expressing your direction or acting upon your desire, others are likely to be reticent, too.

And we all make assumptions. We stay quiet and make assumptions. Assume that you’ll get no support for that big idea you have or for the big move you want to make. Assume you’ll be alone, ignored or ostracized. Assume that no one shares your opinion or understands your plan. Assume that it’s best to maintain status quo.

But what we often find is the opposite.

When you make your commitment and put it out there, once you own your decision, here comes the support. Partly because your new behaviors and attitude attract like-minded people or resources that were previously unknown to you. And partly because you’ve shown the people in your life how to support you in what you truly want.

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One Comment on “The moment one definitely commits”

  1. Lindy Siu Says:

    You’ve hit the nail on the head here, Gretchen! I love the way you express your thoughts so articulately too. Great stuff, keep it coming! 🙂 xx

    Reply

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